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Mary M's avatar

“Respect for the mystery of their process…” That word “respect” is eye-opening for me.

Hayley DiMarco's avatar

It adds a kind of lightness for me, seeing that God is at work in the mystery that is their life, doesn't it?

Mary M's avatar

Exactly! I do think it’s harder, though, when that person is very close to you—someone you somehow feel responsible for (ie, adult children)… but God! 🙏

Hayley DiMarco's avatar

You are exactly right! That sense of enmeshment really is hard to break free from.

Mary M's avatar

Excellent description of the problem (me! 🥴). I have been this person trying to fix others rather than loving and supporting them, wherever they are in their journey. My shift in perspective now has more clarity, thanks to your insightful writing.

Ruth Wood's avatar

I love how you think, Hayley. I like your perceptive insights, suggesting what our true attitudes and behaviors might be even as we work hard to project a godly image.

Hayley DiMarco's avatar

Thanks Ruth. I’m just so done projecting. It’s exhausting. Thanks for the encouragement.

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Hayley DiMarco's avatar

It’s incredible how easy it is to think of people as your task isn’t it. Thank you for your honesty about falling into that trap as well.