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Dwight Owens's avatar

You really nailed it with this one

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Ruth Wood's avatar

"We have to learn to trust that connection can survive differences and that love can hold together through the internal storm of intellectual, political, and even theological disagreement." So well said. Love your thoughts on this timely topic.

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Hayley DiMarco's avatar

thanks Ruth!

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Linda t hudson's avatar

Wow! This article was so insightful. Love is patient . . .

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Hayley DiMarco's avatar

Yes it is, and I'm so thankful that patience is a fruit of the Spirit because generating it myself is impossible!

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Donna McFarland's avatar

Totally agree. The problem is convincing someone close to us that we love them unconditionally, regardless of whether we agree with their positions/lifestyle/choices/whatever. When they stubbornly insist that if we don't agree with them then we don't love them, It hurts like crazy. Your observation about identity is central to the problem. Thanks for shedding some light on it.

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Hayley DiMarco's avatar

I think that's at the heart, showing love in spite of disagreement. It's all in the how do we do that isn't it?

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Kathy Carlton Willis's avatar

I identified to so many points in this article. You made me think! I don’t tend to debate when there are differences, but it’s just one more time I feel alone and isolated in my point of view. I’ve learned to love diversity, including differences of opinion. It IS the beauty of grace, for us to not have to be identical to be children of God. I’m looking forward to your book coming out next year on this topic!

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Hayley DiMarco's avatar

thanks Kathy. I enjoyed reading that you don't debate but still feel alone. It's an odd sensation that I'm striving to walk away from into the loving arms of the Father who loves us all.

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judy witzke's avatar

Definitely need this in our broken world today. There are so many

broken relationships in good families! Thank you for addressing this!

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Hayley DiMarco's avatar

Thanks Judy. I think all families have struggles. That's what happens when you put a bunch of humans together in a close group. There is no one righteous, not even one, and so there is forcibly no family that is perfect either.

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