Hey girls! :) I've never used any blogs/forums like this before so this is all a little different for me.
Anyway, I need some good, solid advice if I may? :) Yep, about a boy, haha.
We met in a class at university and have known each other for about 3 years and 7 months now.
I've liked him on and off the past 3 years, sometimes believing I was completely over him, and at other times feeling so overwhelmed with it. We are good friends and have said that we will always be. I cannot be sure that he knows or if he's felt the same, but I'm pretty sure he should have some clue after this long. He's never done anything overtly to show he knows or is interested. I must admit if anyone's been more "overt" about things it's been me, which is slightly embarrassing. We've told each other that we love one another, but I suppose people always interpret things how they want to, so we've both just taken it as "friend love" I guess, coz we do really value our friendship and would hate to lose each other.
The problem though is that he's not a Christian, and not close to becoming one either. He's been through an awful lot and in a way I guess I am drawn to need. I love to look after people and to feel needed.
Anyway, as you can imagine, after 3 years this has become quite a lot to carry inside my head. I don't want to be with him as he's not a Christian, and there are a few other reasons we would not work well as a couple anyway, but still, I really like him. It is selfish of me, I know, I would just like to get this all off my chest so that maybe I can move past it. However I don't want to dump problems on him just to sort myself out. Do you think I should tell him at the end of the university year (November 16th-ish) when we are both free? Or do you think I should just continue to either live with it or try get over it with God's help still?
Thanks so much gals :) I appreciate any help at all!