In need of feminine help...yep, this is embarrassing.

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Comment by Roxanne on July 28, 2012 at 12:39pm

Thank you SO much girls!  ALL of you have helped and encouraged me SO much!  I can never repay you! Absolutely never!  

I have been taking your all your amazing beyond amazing advice and I just.  Oh I don't know how to thank you all enough!  When I first wanted to be more feminine, I was just thinking about how nice it would be to have people respect me and love me like they did to the girls at my church.  NEVER did I even think it could be FUN to be more girly!  

At first it was hard because I didn't feel comfortable wearing things like lace and skirts in front of my family and friends who have known me for so long.  I was afraid of what they would think.  I never really got to find out - they were obviously shocked when I walked out of the house with heals on for the first time but didn't say anything - but I know they are accepting the new me so all is good.

Anyway!!  It is just so unbelievably fun learning the arts of being feminine!  And trying what I learned out!  THANK YOU GIRLS SO MUCH!!!

I will continue coming here to read all of your girl's amazing advice and just oh!  THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU!!! ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥

Comment by Kathleen Adams on July 28, 2012 at 11:08am

I am new at this but here area few points for you:

* Carry yourself well 

* Don't try to imitate other people to look relaxed, you look sloppy

* Actually don't imitate people at all, they can give advice but in the end they are inperfectl beings.

* Don't show cleavage or too much leg - very important!!!!

* Don't be bossy, voice your opinion with always obviously being open for suggestion ( it is very hard for me to do this but people just like being around you when you do and it is one of the best ways to improve what people think of you)

* Smile

* Be humble

*No crude jokes at all! - one of the fastest ways to wreck your reputation

* Be sensitive to people's emotions but don't automatically react with sympathy, this is not what they need in most to all situations. Be wise and caring though, letting them know they are heard (words are not normally needed for this)

* You have been saved and like it or no are representing God to all who look upon you so speak his glory and be a good role model.

* Politically correct is not correct in the eyes of God so don't be daunted by what people think of you, only care what God thinks of you

*It's a personal choice but I don't wear makeup and I don't think it's necessary for woman to wear any.

*Laugh, be happy, give generously - life is good and as women we are given a sort of freedom when we embrace our earthly role.  

Hope I've helped,

                            Your sister in Christ <3

Comment by Kathleen Adams on July 28, 2012 at 9:49am

I also had the same outlook as you, I was super feminist and determined that I would never be seen as weaker than a male. Not too log ago I actually over heard a boy I knew boasting to a group of guys about being 1 of only 2 people to have ever beaten me in an arm wrestle. When the new guy scoffed and said "But she's only a girl!" they all started laughing and quickly corrected him saying "Kathleen is more of a wild beast than a girl!  -_- what ever happened to my feminine charm?

 Since the days of me pillaging villages and making the towns people cower in their boots (< or so some peers of mine may have you believe) my views have been changed and I'm changing myself. I have come to realize that womanhood and femininity are so precious and man (well those fully matured in their manhood) knows, treasures and rejoices in this for woman is the glory of man. 

I struggled with the whole thing at first. I mean really, really struggled until I was told one thing, just one truth from the Bible cleared it all up for me and I didn't struggle anymore. That one thing was that the relationship between man and woman that was built into our very fiber was modeled  on that of Jesus and God in the respect that neither was less but they both had different parts of the whole and each rejoiced in doing their work unique to them and the work of the other. I was just so amazed and .......... (< insert word that I can't think of now) that my womanhood was so holy and reflected that of God and Jesus that I didn't dispute anything any more. After all; what could be more right than the relationship between God and Jesus anyway?!

I defiantly need help too and anyone that has advice I would like to talk to you plzzzzzzzz. <3

Comment by Katie on July 23, 2012 at 9:00am

i had the exact same problem but you know I changed, i had to!!! I was the only girl at mah school, an just like Shannon said guys only hit on you for fun so when the time is right you'll change because you want to not because you feel like you have to. 

Comment by Shannon Watson on July 20, 2012 at 11:14am

Well, one thing about where I live, is that if you are not almost a twig to a twig, and wears mini skirts all the time, then no guy will even give you the time of day. That, or they try to hit on you for the fun of it. Anyway. I do know what you mean. I am a tomboy myself. But only to a point. You will NEVER see me in anything other than long dark pants. Most of the time jeans, and shoes, either sneakers or if its dress up, gotta be black and a few other requirements. Now what goes on above my waist, I try to girl up a little bit like a tank top with maybe a guys button down shirt over(if it looks good on me) and leave it un buttoned. Or a shirt with just a hint of cleavage for events and I try to have alot of colors when it comes to tops. and hair, I do whatever I feel is right with the outfit. And I have been trying to wear make up every day because before I hated it so much!

But see, I dont like shirts or shorts for personal reasons. But if you do not feel all that grily, you can still wear jeans. Get alot of tops in the color that you make you look good. Find a few colors that really make you feel beautiful. For me its black,red, and purple.

and yes, take pride in the way you carry yourself also. I used to kinda slouch but i started walking with a friend who would walk with such authority and such dominance that I started to do the same thing after a while. 

Another thing I will give you is that if you do start to change how you carry yourself and your dress, dont have it be to have guys notice you. have it be for yourself and for God.

Comment by Patty Arellano on July 19, 2012 at 10:19pm

i cant say ti any better then jamica very well said

Comment by Roxanne on July 18, 2012 at 10:38am

Thank you so much both of you for the advice!

Kace - I ordered "The Lost Art of True Beauty" and am SO EXCITED for it to get here!  Thank you bunches for recommending it! ♥

Meredith - I loved each and every one of those quotes and actually saved a few as my computer desk top screen.  Also, I will be checking into the God Girl Academy and I thank you so much for bringing that up!  Why hadn't I thought of it?!  And you are right, I am fortunate to have them as role models and will be trying to follow their lead more. ♥

THANK YOU GIRLS!  I am really feeling better about this and am getting excited about it as well thanks to you two! ♥ U Both! 

Comment by Kace Ledbetter on July 17, 2012 at 9:07pm

Well first of all... I am going through the same thing you are. Have ever heard of Leslie Ludy? She has GREAT books on how to become the women God created us to be. The Lost Art of True Beauty, Set Apart Femininity and Authentic Beauty are three of her books that would really help. Her books have really helped me on my journey to become the woman I am made to be. She has online devotionals, an online magazine and a blog. Her site is www.setapartgirl.com :)

Comment by Meredith O on July 17, 2012 at 8:15pm

Sorry about all the quotes! I have this pack I got from the Christian Family bookstore of 101 bihle verses for teens, and I made a list if my favorites and I use them for like everytng! Lol(: sorry!!

Comment by Meredith O on July 17, 2012 at 8:12pm

Isn't it amazing how you can just tell a Godly person by how they carry themselves? Light shines on the godly, and joy on those whose  hearts are right. - psm 97:11. If you have God first than that inner joy will make you outwardly beautiful. He has made everything beautiful in its time. -ecclesiastes 3:11. This is probably God's time" for you where he has showed you how you can grow in your spirit and mind and also grow in your body. I think it's the time where you find yourself and who you want to be....a God Girl. The God Girl book reallyyy helped me to see what a God Girl is and what steps to take to become one. I reccomend reading it if you haven't already or even taking a look at the god girl academy. It's great that you have those girls as role models and maybe , if your comfortable, you can go up and talk to them. Be confident and be yourself!(: God loves you! Hope I helped!
P.s. i am unable to attend church regularly and so I am unable to be around god girls my own age in person, so I found it reallllyyy helpful to hear your story! Thanks!!(: