Am I a bother to others?

This year, I have been noticing that my friends have more fun with their friends then they do with me. I'm not envious, but I wonder where I go wrong. I am not a very playful person. I don't like to tease people. But all of my good friends seem to enjoy that kind of fun. Being teased and teasing back. (Ex. Water Gun Chase). The more I try to be outgoing, the more I feel I am straying away from God. But when I am myself, it seems my friends drift away. I know God has a plan for me. However, I feel as if no one will understand me anymore. That everyone will leave me behind.

I recall one time that my best friend once said "You're so boring! Why can't you be like (person)?" She said it as a joke, but I took it quite seriously. I also remember another one of my friends was crying and she didn't tell me why. But when girls she didn't even know came up to ask her if they could do anything, she openly told them everything that happened.

I feel like a terrible friend and I don't know what to do. Sometimes I think the people around me would have a better life if I wasn't around.

I lived with my mother awhile back and my step-father had a drinking problem. It got to be so annoying that when my Dad's girlfriend moved in with him, it was a miracle. Now that I live with my Dad, my step-dad has stopped drinking. Completely. As if he didn't have a problem in the first place. Now they also have a lot of money to spend. And while I live here, my Dad and his girlfriend are having big money problems. I also recall my dad's girlfriend saying, "Sorry I am not a good mother. I wasn't expecting to raise a teenager." That made me feel terrible. I don't want to burden anyone.

Sorry for the terrible grammar, but please help. I really don't know what to do.

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Comment by Victoria Schlipp on August 7, 2012 at 10:05am: Natara, you give great advice. Thank you. You know exactly what I'm going through. Thank you!

Everyone, thank you all for praying for me.

Comment by Natara Hall on August 1, 2012 at 3:48am: Ok. i know how you feel. You feel like everything you do will just cause consequences. but if you try to fix it and say your sorry if you make mistakes they should feel alittle at ease.

Also dont try to change. Be yourself.

With yer dads girlyfriend (sorry i just love calling girlfriend that) say shes a great mum, ask her whats wrong, (you'll find that grown ups like to let their defences down around children, weither they be teenagers or otherwise.) she should talk to you if not. spend alittle time with her, listen to her intrest, then tell her yours.

And with your friends, sometimes they get bored with you, but it doesnt mean they dislike you. I mean I'm a Shadow (a person, who disipers into the background), always will be. Its not a bad thing. What I'm trying to say is give it time. They'll come back, just try to find new interest in the mean time...

Sorry if i have any spelling mistakes and I have to say it was nice to read about you. No i am no stalker, its just nice to know there are others out there that feel the same as i do, i mean its not nice just... Oh man, i dont know, this just confusing me more...

Anyway i hope this helps at least alittle.

Sorry if it doesn't... And if it makes things worse.... Never listen to my advise again... sorry...

Love from Natara Hall/Nature/Shadow

Comment by Haley G. Zachry on July 28, 2012 at 8:22pm: Girl that sounds terrible! I am praying for you! Rest assured that just being who you are is always the right thing. Be who God wants you to be, not who your friends want you to be. If you ever need a friend, you can message me! I'm always open to new friends :)

Comment by Victoria Schlipp on July 27, 2012 at 8:24pm: Thank you all so much!! *bows* You helped me so much. You showed me what I couldn't see or understand. Thank you, thank you, thank you. You are so awesome!!

Comment by Grim on July 27, 2012 at 6:03pm: Sometimes people dont mean to hurt you with there words like when your dad's girlfriend said, "Sorry I am not a good mother. I wasn't expecting to raise a teenager." she was probably just having a bad day. Im sorry your friends are like that but its not because you did anything, Im a very out going person and I have a hard time being around calm people because sitting still just makes my skin itch, its not your fault at all. Maybe you should try to find friends more like you because if they are trying to change you and exclude you from what they do you might new new friends more like your self. All my friends are out-going crazy people but I dont mind being around calm people, you should try to find a middle ground on what you and your friends like to do. That my advice, I just thought it might help if you got advice from a really out going person. Let me know if it works out. I will be praying for you!

Comment by Hannah Marie DeForrest on July 27, 2012 at 9:08am: I am so sorry you are going through this!!! There is something that Meredith said that I want to repeat!!!!! You are a good person because you are a God Girl and you care about your friends and family and what they think of you!!! You are not a bother to others!!!!!!! If your friends are leaving you out then you need to pray to God to give you better friends!!!!! I was going through this with some former neighbors of mine and I started to pray! i asked God to give me some better friends, but make me closer to them!!!! In 8th grade, I got an amazing friend from God!!!!!! He is like a brother to me!!!! If God did that for me, he will do it for you!!!!!! I hope I have helped!!!!

Comment by Meredith O on July 27, 2012 at 8:23am: I'm so sorry that you are feeling this way and I'm sure it isn't that your a burden! You're a good person because you are a God Girl and you care about your friends and family and what they think of you. I'm not very outgoing myself and sometimes I feel like I bore people, but then I look back on it and God has showed me that I won't be best friends with everyone. Some of my friends I can hang out with all the time and never get bored even when it's just us, and other times I have a hard time spending an hur with someone bc there is constantly a silence that overcomes our conversations. What I've learned is that your still should be friendly ands nice and try as hard as you can to keep conversation (i think that its easiest to talk about things you have in common.) over my last year at school my friends that I've had since like kindergarten, realllyyyyyy started to change. They began hanging out with not so nice people and started to leave me out of conversations and avoid talking to me completely in front of the popular friends. Then they would come back later when no one was around and they told me how amazing of a friend I was and how I always listened to their problems and that we nor argued or ever had a fight. In my head I was really angry with my friends and the only thing I could think to do was to leave their lunch tab
E and find a group of people who. Got along with and who liked me for me and weren't afraid to hang out with me. God lead me to a group of friends that today are my best friends! I'm not saying that you should give up on your friends just because you feel like you aren't included, but I would just keep your eyes open and let God guide you to meet new people. You are not boring or a bother, and you stand up for your beliefs and stay who you are. Your friends may not end up as your best friends forever but as long as you remain nice to them they will respect you and probably look up to you for sticking to who you are.
I hope I helped! Remembr to pray and I will be praying for you too!