A few weeks ago a good friend of mine recommended that I watch the ‘Love, Sex & Dating’ series by Andy Stanley of North Point Ministries. At first I was a bit against the idea - coz hey, a Pastor who talks about love, sex and dating…yeah, not my scene. I asked a friend to watch it with me and it was WOW!! Completely blew my mind. It has transformed every thought I ever had about love, sex and dating and all of a sudden I realized why it never worked out with anyone (that’s kind of what happens when you go against God’s plan for your life, you have to live with the consequences).
In his first part of the series he asks the very important question:
Are you who the person you are looking for is looking for?
Well, no.. not exactly. Actually not even a little bit, not even AT ALL!!
But I have the choice to become that person and that is what I am doing - I am becoming the person who the person I am looking for is looking for!!
In his second part of his series (Gentleman’s Club) he asks every guy in the group to give up dating for one year (that is 12 months, 52 weeks, 365 days, 8765.81 hours, 525949 minutes, -and I can continue but you get my drift). I’m not a guy, but I am a serial dater. Yep, I like going on dates with guys who aren’t even my type coz hey how will I know when the right one comes along if I don’t take a shot at all of them right?? Man I was so wrong. I digress. Fact is on the 6th of August 2012 I undertook the challenge to be absolutely date free for 365 days - next year on the same day, if I am ready, I will resume dating.
Easy peasy right? Haha, I thought so too - sadly all the really sweet guys are making advances now that I can’t date, but it is awesome knowing I can spend time with them without allowing myself to go on an actual date with any of them - which in turn means no extra long hugs, no hand holding, no kissing, I won’t even let them breathe down my neck for a second longer than is necessary!
It isn’t a way to punish myself, it is a way to find myself. I have the choice, the chance, the challenge of making myself better. Dealing with my bad habits (oh and I have many) and being able to spend time with guys without judging if they are a potential suitor before I even know them.
It has been almost two weeks already and I am doing well!! I have made a list of all my bad habits and what I can do to become the person I need to be along with a list of all the qualities that I would like in another person. I am willing to work on it and pray for it and I know Jesus is with me all the way!!
Before a guy finds me, he has to find Jesus - I’m just saying!!
So now, are YOU who the person you are looking for is looking for??